A hug is such a strange thing. We feel all weird when we see someone heading towards us with those arms out stretched. Sometimes we bob and weave to avoid it. Sometimes we turn and shoulder the hugger so we can minimize the impact. The strange thing is that people enjoy hugs and I think I have worked out why.
A hug expresses a huge amount to those being hugged. It
expresses love, concern, and care. It’s a great way of saying; "Don’t worry". It says
"I’m here". It says, "All will be ok!". It says, "You are forgiven". It says, "You are
important and special". It says that I have seen you, you are noticed. It says it’s
ok to cry. It says a big bold hello and is a far bigger hello than a handshake.
It says we are together in this.
Whatever the reason for a hug they always seem good.
Afterwards we feel good. We feel like a million dollars. You feel like you had
a really good cup of coffee. Yet for some reason we don’t see many people
hugging. It’s like hugs are reserved for special occasions or for when the
family is around. Without hugs we send a message of…. Well none of the above.
There is just nothing. I think the world would be a better place if people got
more hugs. There are people out there who are hug…less. It’s sad but true.
Imagine a life without a hug. Imagine having a childhood without hugs.
I propose we change the world through hugs!
I propose that everyone deserves a hug!
So here is the big hug challenge. If you are not up to it. Well you better stop reading now. This is going to blow your mind and make you a professional Hug…omaniac.
Step 1 Start
small. Hug your pillow, dog and cat. Something to practice on. If you survive
without being bitten or scratched go to step 2. If not….still go to step 2.
Step 2 Clean
up. Pointless being a hugger if you stink, have bad breath, sweat a lot or are
generally repulsive. Have a shower and a shave and get ready for the big time.
Now for step 3.
Step 3 Time
for humans. Try someone close. A family member, husband, wife, children,
mother-in-law.
Step 4 Your
family is not getting enough hugs, repeat step 3 a few times. Especially for
the children. Don’t take no from teenagers. Give them a hug even if they grunt
in offense.
Step 5
Time to try a few people who are a bit more unknown. Keep hugging the family
but now extend your hugging to those who are not family. Invite some friends
for a braai and then hug them. Maybe when you are next at church. Hug them.
Heck if you know their name give them a hug. Why? Well, why the not!
Step 6 By
now you think you are a pro hugger but the bad news is you still have a way to
go before you get really good at this thing called hugging. Now you need to hug
a stranger. Yip, that’s what I said, a stranger. Hug someone who you have met
for the first time. Give them a big ‘ol squeeze. I bet they will enjoy it and
even if they don’t, so what. They deserve it anyway. Give them another hug for
good measure. Try the cashier at the store. Try the person getting in a car
next to you. Strangers are just friends you have not met yet. So it’s time you
met them with a big hug.
Step 7 There
will be a bunch of people you won’t have hugged up to now. Let’s call them the
unhuggables. They will be people that for some reason you feel they should not
get your hug. Well todays your day to deal with that. Maybe it’s someone who
made you Angry. Maybe they did something to you. Maybe they are a different
race, religion, culture, age, attitude, dress, gender. Maybe they're Boss
or someone you feel is too below you. Whatever the reason it’s time you got
over it. Give them a hug. Give the car guard a hug. Hug a beggar. Hug a
policeman. Hug the petrol attendant. Hug someone from a different political
party. Hug your teacher. Hug the person who you have been avoiding.
Step 8 Now
repeat it all over and over until it’s the way you are. Be the best hugger. See
if you can hug more than 10 people a day. Set yourself goals. Hug 20 a day.
Heck, Hug a 100 people in a day. I dare you!
If you have made it through this you have done well. You
have said goodbye to your issues with people and have said hello to a life of a
hug..omaniac.
Cheers
Happy hugging